Friday, 31 October 2014
Word of the Week - Friends
This week I was given the opportunity to visit Hatton Adventure Farm. We had already planned to meet up with friends this half term so we decided to meet them there and we all had a lovely day.
Just over nine years ago I was moderator of a forum for mums-to-be who were over thirty five. I was pregnant with Star and K was pregnant with her little boy. We would talk every day on the forum and soon after having our babies we were having another at the same time, again I had a girl and she had another boy. Once we had finished our time on the forum we moved to Facebook to keep in touch.
We first decided to meet up during the summer holidays, but with Star still being in her halo right up until August we didn't make it, so promised to meet at half term instead.
So on Tuesday we met for the very first time in nine years, and we got on really well. I think you do underestimate just how friendships are made online, it's not real life after all. I have now met lots of lovely friends that I first met online and it's something I always love doing.
I know so many people who steer away from social networking because they think they are nothing but trouble, but I love them. You just have to be grown up about it all. You can't expect to get on with everyone and when you get a huge group of people there are always going to be those that clash and argue. So yes, there is trouble, but you don't have to join in the arguments, it can be avoided.
Online friendships give people a platform to be something they are not, they can exaggerate their lifestyles, constantly seek attention and lie mercilessly. It's difficult to trust people when they have the opportunity to deceive you. However, sometimes it's ok to let someone who you don't know in real life to become a real friend. I think when you have been talking to someone for a long time then you really do know them despite having never met.
I don't have many friends. This is my choice. I have a few close friends and that suits me. I'm not one for popping around friends house for a coffee and chat every other day, or talk for hours on the phone about the latest gossip. That's just the way I am and I'm happy with it. I do have lots of friends online though, I find online friendships much easier to maintain and lots of them I have been friends with for many years.
So this week I am smiling because I met an online friend who I've wanted to meet for a long time and we had a lovely day together. I'm sure we will meet up again and not be waiting nine years this time.