First Birthday of the Year

It turned out to be quite a busy week last week. Well, busy in my terms anyway, compared to not doing very much at all.

I had to go out and buy my first born some birthday cards which is always a task. Do you think I can remember how many siblings he has and which card will be appropriate for each one. You may think it easier to take them to choose their own, but I think I’ll pass on that and get them myself. Cards purchased I decided to pop into nearby M&S to buy a birthday cake. The choice was not brilliant and despite us being a large family, I couldn’t really justify buying a cake for sixteen. What I did buy was a chocolate tray bake which looked really nice, and was already cut into portions so no arguing over who gets the biggest slice.

I also popped into Boots to look for something a little extra for my son and discovered that they had a lot of their Christmas gifts on sale for half price. So I stocked up! I’ve got a few family birthdays in the next three months so that will save me loads.

I really enjoyed the shopping trip. It’s good when we go somewhere newly built because they always accommodate wheelchair users, sliding doors and no steps are such a bonus that walkers take for granted. The only problem I did have was that it was so cold I lost all feeling in my legs. It was a struggle to get back in the car afterwards.

The Birthday!

My son’s birthday arrived, but his birthday present didn’t. I’d ordered him a really nice gift online over a week ago and it didn’t turn up in time. I don’t like late presents, I believe that everyone should have gifts to open on their birthday and not have to wait, even if the gift is worth waiting for. I had however, stocked up on some gifts on the previous days shopping trip, so he had some to enjoy. Then when his main gift arrives it will be an extra treat.

As it was his day he decided that he wanted us to go out shopping so off we went again. Thankfully the weather was a little kinder which meant I didn’t suffer so much, but after spending two hours walking around he still didn’t buy anything.

We got home, picked the kids up from school and then it was time to go our for our dinner. He’d chosen Frankie and Benny’s for his treat. The restaurant is only a few miles from our home but as there are seven of us and our car is a five seater, we had to order a taxi. But, no-one wanted to go in the taxi (well apart from the Little Man who thought the car looked like a Lamborghini) so an argument was brewing. It was sorted eventually though and we all arrived at the restaurant at basically the same time.

a soda float drink in the foreground with a little boy tucking into his dessert behind it

The food took ages as the restaurant was very busy. It seemed every five minutes the lights went down and they played Happy Birthday to someone while taking them a cake with candles. My son would have walked out if I’d arranged that for him, thankfully I know better. In fact we had a poll while we were there, Boo, Star, No1 Son and Eldest Daughter said ‘no way,’ but me, Graham and the Little Man said we would enjoy it.

We all enjoyed our meals, with everyone ordering something different which just goes to show how difficult I find it making meals that please everyone at home.

Going Home

Then it was time to leave and to stop the argument with the taxi again, Graham said he’d make two journeys. He took the girls home first while I stayed with my two sons. We waited for the bill (ouch!) and then walked over to the arcade that was in the bowling alley opposite. As soon as we were in there I was reminded of summer holiday camps. The kids love nothing more than walking around amusement arcades playing all the games and trying to win toys from the grabber machines. We were not in there long though, Graham was back and looking for us.

When we got home the birthday boy went in first and the living room was in darkness apart from the candles on his cake. Then the girls jumped out and yelled Happy Birthday! He’s not one for surprises but this was so lovely I think he really liked that they had thought to do it.

After all that we had eaten, do you think we could manage birthday cake? Of course we could!

The Aftermath

It had been a couple of really busy days and I’d been out two days in a row. I had to pay the price, my body gave up completely and I spent a whole day doing ‘absolutely nothing!’ I always feel guilty, like I’m deliberately being lazy, but I have limitations, and boy do those limitations hit me hard.

By the next day I was feeling more rested and able to move a little. But, when I get knocked down like that, I worry about doing anything that will make the pain come back.

Thankfully, I’m feeling much better now and ready to face the week ahead.


So, January is almost over, but Christmas seems like it was a lifetime away. I’m one birthday down already, and the rest of the year is laid out ahead. So much to do, so much to see, so many new friends to make. How can anyone feel depressed in January when it’s a whole new beginning?

Now, I’m longing for Spring and warmer weather. I want to see flowers and leaves on the trees. I want to feel the sun warm my bones. In my Autumn years I’ve turned into a Summer person. All my life it’s been the cold weather that I’ve loved, brisk walks on chilly days, playing in the snow, early days and wrapping up warm. But since I got sick, feeling cold is really not an option because it hurts so bad. So, I long for the heat that I once shied away from, just because it feels better.

Are you a winter or summer person?

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  1. January 28, 2019 / 12:03 pm

    It does sound like a lovely birthday treat. I hope your son enjoyed it. I’m with him on the singing. I’m sure others enjoy it. Smiling at your taxi logistics. We would probably be the same. Good for Little Man seeing the fun. I hope your eldest’s present has turned up today or soon. #MMBC

  2. January 28, 2019 / 12:42 pm

    happy birthday to your son! My birthday is in January but didn’t do anything. I hate the cold and can’t wait for summer! #MMBC

  3. January 28, 2019 / 1:02 pm

    Happy birthday to your big lad. My eldest was 25 a couple of weeks ago, so I know how easily they get embarrassed, but, like you, I’d also like it if everyone sang to me, just once!
    I’ve always been a Winter person and even I am struggling now with getting going in the morning when I’m stiff and sore from sleeping. I honestly cannot begin to imagine how awful it must be for you when you get cold. You need a big blanket over your legs like you used to with the kids when they were babies 🙂

  4. January 28, 2019 / 1:18 pm

    Happy birthday to your son! It looks like he had a lovely time and I do hope his present turns up soon. I giggled at your description of buying cards, I have exactly the same issues when doing so. #mmbc

  5. January 28, 2019 / 4:39 pm

    Looks like a good time was had … and fair play to you for organising all that. Hope you are recovered soon!! I find as I get older, I like winter less!! #MixItUp

  6. January 28, 2019 / 5:50 pm

    What a treat, happy birthday, I do love arcade games so much fun X #mmbc

  7. January 29, 2019 / 12:50 pm

    I’m a summer person which is why I moved to Florida decades ago. Our winter is mild and spring is fantastic too. #keepingitreal

  8. January 29, 2019 / 9:22 pm

    I love this and happy birthday to your son. I love the line about January and a whole new beginning x #MixItUp

  9. January 30, 2019 / 2:16 pm

    Happy belated birthday to your son, it sounds like he had a lovely day.
    Hope you are feeling better now after a good rest. I do love the winter but I am also looking forward to getting back in the garden and seeing all of the colourful blooms!

    Thanks for sharing with #MMBC. x

  10. January 31, 2019 / 11:55 am

    soory to hear the birthday was marred by pain over the following days, but it sounds like your eldest son had a wonderful time. I’m not a fan of a fuss on birthdays, but wouldn’t object if anyone sang at me #keepingitreal

  11. January 31, 2019 / 4:59 pm

    Aww that sounds such a lovely treat. Happy birthday to your wonderful son. I hope he had the best birthday. I’m with him on the singing though. I hope your eldest’s present turned up. Hugs xx

  12. February 2, 2019 / 2:43 pm

    Hi Anne, I do miss shopping in the after Christmas sales. It’s not something that is done here, it’s as if they would rather hold onto old Christmas stock than sell it at a cheaper price.! Do you remember those gift boxes of posh perfumes Boots used to sell? That was my favourite bargain buy in January. Oh, how I feel the children have missed out on those small pleasures….it sounds like a proper circus getting seven of you out the house (no offence meant), but at least you got out with minimum fallouts! If I didn’t die then I would sink under the table if someone sang Happy Birthday to me in a public place. My toes cramp with curling when it happens to someone else, even if they are happy about it… We should all listen to what our body tells us, if we need to rest then we need to rest. Whatever our physical capabilities there is only so much we can do before our body red flags us. It’s a fair tradeoff for doing too much… The only thing about January that I don’t enjoy is the fact it’s in the middle of winter, so that should answer your question. I am most definitely not a cold weather person, it makes me proper miserable and I can’t function efficiently and that’s here. Winter in the UK would render me totally useless!

    Thank you for linking up with #keepingitreal.


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