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  1. Kate

    I have sensed a kindred spirit before and I empathise with so much that you have to say in this post. How brave the non popular girl is to show vulnerability. Sometimes that leads to a bad situation but as you say your friend is having a particularly challenging time and that can make us act in very odd ways pushing the people away who we probably need most. I love how you have taken time out to reflect and learn from this situation. Time may yet heal #MMBC

    • Anne Sweet

      Thank you Kate x It’s taken me a long time to get to this point, but when you get knocked down you just have to get back up again. And I’m not going to change or stop because that would mean I’m ashamed of myself, and I’m really not x

  2. Jenny @thebrickcastle

    Being in a bad place yourself can make it very hard to have room to feel sorry for others. I’m sure we all have those times. That is when it’s important to remember ‘if you have nothing good to say, then say nothing’. It’s never am excuse to break and I’m sure deep down she didn’t really mean it. What she meant is ‘I can’t cope with this on top of my own disasters’, and she should have just walked away. I’m glad you have found the positives xx

    • Anne Sweet

      I think you are probably right with the ‘I can’t cope with this’ comment. It sounds spot on. But I’m definitely the type to not say anything if I can’t say anything nice. I find myself biting my tongue a lot when I hear people complaining of minor illnesses when I have to go through so much every day, but each person has their own things to deal with and it doesn’t matter how major or minor, it’s difficult for them. xx

  3. Sarah MumofThree World

    What an awful thing for that ‘friend’ to do. As you say, you’re entitled to write on your own FB about your own life and be supportive of others at the same time. How sad that she couldn’t see that.

    • Anne Sweet

      If it had been a stranger I’d have just ignored it. I forgive her though, she took it out on me and that’s okay, I can take it. It’s sad knowing that it wouldn’t have made her feel any better herself and there are better ways to deal with things 🙁 x

  4. Debbie

    Hi Anne, I am so sorry to read this. I’ve come to the conclusion that some people just don’t think before they react or speak, but there is never a reason good enough for causing hurt to anyone. When people start to bother us we should either catch them and have a quiet word or step away and not turn it into a public showdown.

    I’m not keen on Facebook, but it has its uses and connecting with people (if we chose) is one of them… Saying that eleven years of posting daily is what I call dedication, you need a medal! It’s also a great place for raising awareness of the many things that affect peoples lives that in the past we may never have known about… Like you I am very much a loner, and like you, I don’t open up easily. I’m naturally wary and people tire me. Friendships do come and go or just sit on the back burner waiting to be reignited, but that’s okay. Like fashion, friendships come and go and change. However, there are friendships we can all do without and as difficult a time as your ‘friend’ may be going through there was no need for her to make you feel crappy. That’s not a friend… My Dad has spent years trying to ‘teach’ me not to be like him, but you know what? I wouldn’t be happy any other way.

    Take care and remember it’s her, not you!

    xx

  5. Rebecca Beesley

    I’ve probably mentioned this before but i feel like we have similarities in the way we think of friendships – i have always preferred to have a smaller close circle of friends rather than feeling ‘popular’. I’m sorry you’ve been through this. I tend to avoid facebook as much as possible these days – although it does have its good points, I’ve spent too much time hurt from things happening on there in the past. I’m very very slowly learning about the importance of vulnerability too. x

  6. Jayne @ Sticky Mud and Belly Laughs

    Oh Anne, I’m sorry to hear that your friend reacted that way. I do love how you have turned this into a learning curve and moved on. Life really is too short and I appreciated just how short when Craig had his heart transplant. Sometimes it pays to just turn the page and start a new chapter. Keep being you lovely!

    Thanks for sharing with #MMBC . x

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