I’ve never been one for having lots of friends, I do find it difficult to make new friends, but the ones I have I hold dear as they mean so much to me.
“As we grow up we realise it’s less important to have more friends and more important to have real friends” -unknown
Sometimes I feel a little jealous of those with friends that are always popping around each other’s houses, having nights out, doing their shopping together, never doing anything without consulting the other one first. But only a little jealous, I’ve been there, done that and it only made me feel uncomfortable. I’m the type of friend that is there whenever you need me, so long as it’s not 24/7. I don’t do long, long telephone calls either. Maybe back in the day before we had mobiles and text, but not now, I’d much rather send off a quick text then meet in person for a good chat.
Shopping, I prefer to do on my own, although if you want me to tag along to appointments or give you a lift, I will if I can.
“Friendship is not a big thing, it’s a million little things”
So, I guess I’m not the best type of friend but I’m not a bad friend either. I’ll never tell anyone your secrets, spend the whole time we are together moaning about how bad my life is, stop you from chasing your dreams or steal your fella. I’ll help you whenever I can, listen whenever you want me to and if you want a night out, just because I turned you down last time, don’t stop asking I won’t always say no.
“A Sweet friendship refreshes the soul – Proverbs 27.9”
I watch my young children make friendships all the time. Sometimes they find it easy, other times they find it hard. They argue, they make up it’s all the way that making friends work. The ones that stick around are the ones that truly are friends. I teach my children to respect their friends and then hopefully they will be respected in return. It doesn’t hurt anyone to be nice to someone and being nice can make you a new friend.
“Every new friend is a new adventure…the start of more memories – Patrick Lindsey”
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We are so alike Anne – those first few paragraphs could have been written about me. When the boys were younger and all the new mum's were busy socialising I used to feel like there was something wrong with me because I didn't like big get togethers and noisy nights out. Now I feel more relaxed about it and feel more comfortable saying no and just meeting up with my closer friends 1:1 . I love those friendship quotes you have used. Xxx
I like this post, it's a lot like me. I can't do the in your face friend thing, I haven't got time. It doesn't mean I won't be there for you though. Friends are a funny thing x
Ah what a lovely post – I do like to think occasionally of the friends I haven't met yet, having made so many new friends in recent years 🙂
Making friends as an adult is really hard – I can count the number of friends I have on hand – the ones that would be there for me no matter what and vice versa. And I'm that person who is jealous when others say they're meeting friends for this or that – my best mate lives 200 miles away now, and I miss her xx
I have different friends for different things – there are some I can have a fun night out with but who I'd not have a heart to heart then there are some who I know I could call at 3am if I needed – not that I ever have! But I could. I appreciate them in in their different ways, and hope that they feel the same about me!
I find it really hard to trust people after making a friend that turned out to be really toxic. I have one great Mum friend and I cherish her
I think it is hard in today's society to make friends. I have trust issues and find it difficult to connect with people now, I used to be really good at it! Maybe it's a 'grown up' thing.
I find it very hard to make friends, I was great as a kid but then I hit my teens and nope can't do it since lol. x
This is a great post. I have some amazing friends all over the UK and one or two I feel I can just pop round too when I need too x
I find it very hard to make friends now, especially since having my son. I'm glad I've got a few good 'Mummy' friends as most of my non parent friends have drifted away x
good friends are like gold dust aren't they! I've only got a couple of 'best' friends but feel so lucky to have them x
I love the idea of friends you haven't met yet 🙂 I think your circle of friends does change as you get older.
Ahh what a lovely post. Good friends are hard to come by aren't they. I love the friends we've known for years even if we don't get to see them as often as we'd like. New friends are awesome too though, have met some amazing people through blogging 🙂
I'm so wary of people and even though I'm super friendly I do find it difficult to trust new friends. I have a couple of best friends that I truly love and trust and many others that I really like too but wouldn't tell my innermost secrets too lol x