We spend so much of our lives worrying about our kids and I don’t mean just the little things, I’m on about the big things. How, will they grow up? Will they be successful? Will they be happy? Will they get a good job? And so, so much more.
I know that with my younger kids we won’t face the same issues as I did with my older kids, in fact most people will not experience what we went through. But, if there is something I’ve learned it’s that no amount of worry will change anything.
I’d love to finish this with saying don’t worry, but it’s natural and the truth is, you will always worry. But, don’t let that worry get in the way of the here and now. Take each day as it comes and make as many happy memories as you can. Then the worries will fade into the distance and you will do the very best for your children.
Very wise words!
I worry so much about everything including the kids….Last week someone asked what I was giving up for Lent and I said worrying about things I have no control over! I am trying hard, worrying less and I have found myself smiling and laughing more….
My mum says 'The bigger the kids. The bigger the worries! I definitely think that mothers worry more than fathers 🙂
#MMBC
That's fabulous, I would love to give up worrying, it's never ending, but smiling more and worrying less about the things you have no control over helps a lot x
What a wise and insightful post. You're absolutely right in all that you say and I think that you are clearly doing a great job with all of your children. Thanks for being part of the #bigpinklink
I do spend a lot of time worrying about my older kids even though they are adults! And yes, mothers must be the biggest of all worriers!
Very true words indeed. I'm pretty laid back and tend just to cross bridges when they turn up. I hope that the girls will make the right choices, but I know sometimes they won't and when that happens I will be there to help them back up and get back on track. Being a mum is a tough job, but I think we're all doing ok #MMBC
what great quotes about the rocking chair and stopping enjoying the good. Reading this I don't know how you did it either – well actually I do – you are an amazing, strong, caring, wonderful woman.
I am a born worrier and it's hard to stop that. It's about balance I guess – I'll always worry about my children. It's a Mums prerogative xx #candidcuddles
Thank you, I know I've messed up in the past but I have learnt from my mistakes and hopefully my kids will be ok.
I'm very laid back to and pick my fights with my kids, I do always stick the rule that no means no though.
Thank you Rebecca, I often worry that I'm not that good but I try my best x
It really is and we will always worry, but we shouldn't let the worry spoil the good times. x
Great advice, thanks for sharing. I try not to let my worrying influence my children as I don't want them to worry themselves. #candidcuddles
Nothing worries like a parent! It's important to keep it in check otherwise you'll do your own head in. Lovely post 🙂
Trying not to worry is an impossibility isn't it. My children are 19,17,5 & 2 and each bring their own set of worries and challenges. As a mum I have to be up to the job but sometimes it's tough. Thanks for linking up with #TuesdayTreasures
Hi Anne, I love the rocking chair analogy. At the end of the day, it is nature over nurture. I believe that as parents we are here to be there and guide our children through their younger years until they are old enough and confident enough to take over the reigns. I learned pretty early to that other people's advice only confused me and made me fret, so once I realised that I followed my gut feeling. I won't say it lessened the worry, but by following my gut I knew the reasons behind my actions and it wasn't because someone else told me so. It gave me room to learn and grow as a person and parent. Parenting isn't a case of one cap fits all, parents and children are all different and the way they interact is different.
How you coped raising two children and working full time on your own is beyond me, but it sounds as if you did a good job.
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Very wise words. It sounds like you've been through a lot. #PostsFromTheHeart
Great advice, I was never a worrier when my daughter was younger. As she's getting older I think I'm getting worse. It's like I can't help myself #bigpinklink
The rocking chair one! Brilliant! Sounds like you've endured a lot but it's great that you've learned so much from it. Thanks for joining #candidcuddles !
It's certainly unfair to pass our worries on to our children so well done
Isn't that the truth!
We wouldn't be human if we didn't worry about our kids, it's tough but it has it's rewards too. x
So true Deb, you can't really do better than listening to your own gut feeling, at least then you understand why you have done things the way you have. Parenting does make you grow as a person and it certainly isn't the same for everyone.
When I was younger I once had three jobs while caring for my kids, I had to do them part time so I could spend as much time with them as possible. It was really hard when I lost the support of my family, I look back and have no idea how I coped. Thankfully it was shortly after that, that I met my current husband.
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Thank you, I don't often think of myself as wise x
There are always different stages of parenting that bring worries, we tend to manage them ok though x
I think it's only natural to worry 24/7. It's just all part of the wonderful tapestry that is motherhood.#Postsfromtheheart
I need to stop worrying a little… move with the flow a bit and try and relax. Thanks for joining in with #TuesdayTreasures