Driving
Yesterday I drove my car. That’s not huge news, but I haven’t driven since before the accident last October. I wasn’t driving then, and hadn’t driven more than once or twice in the preceding months, but that seems a pivotal point.
I have never really felt comfortable driving with my hands, but I’ve always enjoyed driving and the freedom it brings. Getting from A to Z is so much easier by car. But I don’t drive alone since my illness. I can’t lift my wheelchair out of the boot, and if anything happened where I became unable to continue driving I’d be stuck.
It was a sudden decision to drive yesterday. I wanted to go to visit my brother who lives about two miles away. A quick and easy drive. And I did it.
Dilemma
This made me think even more about our car dilemma. We get a car on Motability. This means that in return for the disability benefit I get for being unable to walk can be used in exchange for the three year lease of a new car with insurance and breakdown recovery included. We are due a new car this year.
I know I don’t always talk about everyone but we are actually a family of seven living together. Sometimes, we want to go out with more than five of us in the car. This means either a taxi to help or Graham has to make two journeys. It would be nice to go out more as an extended family without this issue so we have made the decision to get a bigger car, one with seven seats.
This decision comes with drawbacks. Seven seat cars require a deposit and with limited funds it means we are limited to which we can choose. (I’m talking thousands of pounds here.) There are actually only two cars we can afford and we have been weighing up the pros and cons. The one we finally decided on we have discovered that we cannot have it as an automatic car. The implications of this means that we cannot have hand controls fitted and I won’t be able to drive it.
The other car is still an option and we will take a look at it before making a final decision. The main issue is that it won’t have enough room for my wheelchair if we all use the car. So, we can all go out together but I won’t be able to get very far when we get to wherever we are going. We may find that the wheelchair can be fitted in somehow, or maybe my manual chair will fit. That’s why we are going to view it.
So, here is my dilemma. We get a car that is most useful for us as a family but I won’t be able to drive it. It’s only for three years, and so many things can happen in that time. So maybe we won’t need seven seats by then and I can go back to driving. Do, I sacrifice driving for three years?
The answer is there really. Why should we not get the type of car we really need, just because I will miss driving. I can’t even go anywhere alone, I need another driver with me.
Still, it’s another thing that I must give up because of this stupid rare condition.
That is a tough one, Anne.
That’s such a difficult decision. I’m sure the brain work weighing up all the pros and cons are tiring but on the plus side you will be able to accommodate everyone as you say but it is hard to let go of yet another bit of independence when our illnesses take so much already. I hope you find the right car and come to the best decision for you. Take care, Niamh.
That’s a really hard choice to make. I hope when you look at the other car you’re able to find a way to fit your wheelchair.
#abitofeverything
It must be so hard to even think about giving up driving but I think having a car which can fit all the family in would be fantastic for you all.
It’s a shame you can’t get a wheelchair rack, like the bike racks that people have on the back of their cars.
they do actually exist Kim, but I don’t like the idea of my wheelchair hanging off the back of the car, especially when we’ve been hit from behind twice now. eek!
That’s a tricky decision Anne. x
Oh this is a tough one. I have a 7 seater, but wondering if I really need one. I hope you figure out what is best. xx
Happy you are better enough to drive your car. So sorry you got in an accident.
It must be a tough call to have to decide whether or not you should give up driving. I really enjoy driving so know how you must be feeling. I hope everything turns out ok for you guys whatever you decide. xx #MMBC