I don’t think my school woes will ever end. Well, maybe in about eight years time when my youngest finally leaves school.
This time my woes are with my Little Man. He’s in year three, primary school. Only it’s not primary school any more because he goes to an all school through school. It means the same school from reception to year 11. But, this is new and they’ve not yet integrated the two schools properly. Boo is in year 6 and in the same school as her sister in year 8. But the years reception to year 4 are in a different building and the younger years seem to get a bad deal.
I can’t really fault the big school, my girls are doing fine, and whenever a problem arises they get it sorted. Star has loads of extra help because of her Autism and disabilities, the school is very understanding (well, apart from the attendance issues.) The Little Man’s school is very different. My Little Man has been struggling for a while now, since he started year 3. He gets bullied at playtime and even though we’ve complained it’s not been resolved. The kids that bully him are always made out to be the good kids in the class. They are always being rewarded for their work and behaviour. My Little Man, however, seems to be in trouble constantly and never receives any rewards. We have been called into the school because of his naughty behaviour on several occasions.
The thing is, the Little Man is well behaved at home and we think there must be a problem at school for his behaviour there. He tells us that he gets into trouble for talking in class, this happens when he’s being pinched or had faces pulled at him to point he can’t take it any more and tells them to stop. Then he gets into trouble with the teacher for not concentrating on his work and talking!
He does do naughty things, he’s flooded the toilets deliberately on several occasions. And he’s drawn on the chairs, wall and desks. I’ve seen his scribbling, he writes things like ‘leave me alone’ or ‘ had enough now.’ Yet, the teachers can’t see his cries for help and are just labelling him as naughty.
We have got to the stage now where he is refusing to go to school. We are still taking him, but under duress. His Dad says he’s okay once he gets there. But, he is coming home upset and we’ve had many tears.
I have five children and this is the first time I’ve had a child in the early years (Which used to be called the Infants when I was at school) that doesn’t want to go.
Is He Autistic?
The others have had issues but they have been resolved, but somehow the school is failing my little boy. I guess it doesn’t help that he’s already had three different teachers this year.
The last time we talked to the teachers they said that they thought he needed psychological help and is probably autistic. I have has suspicions for a while but his dad is not so sure. A couple of weeks ago I took him to the clinic for an unrelated medical issue, and after the nurse talked with him for about twenty minutes she asked to speak to me privately. Her first question was, is he autistic? (she may not have been so blunt, but that is what she was asking.)
So, now we are waiting for a referral to get him assessed. I already have two autistic children and they were assessed pretty quickly, but I don’t think the process is so quick now. We will have a long wait for the answers on that issue.
Whether he has autism or not, I cannot let the issues continue at school. Today, his Dad has spoken to his ‘new’ teacher and the school secretary. He has asked for an appointment so we can talk to someone about our worries. It’s time for us to step this up and get our little man the help he needs. I will not tolerate bullies, and I will remove my son from the school if it isn’t stopped immediately.
My heart is breaking for my poor Little Man, he’s such a loving, sweet child and does not deserve to be this unhappy.