Family – Word of the Week

I don’t very often talk about my older children (adults) at their request, but this week has been as much about them so I’m choosing the word Family to include all my family.

This week my ex husband has been to visit. He lives in the South of France and we don’t get to see him often. Our children have been over to visit him many times in the years he’s lived there. A nice free holiday for them!

We all get on really well so it’s been okay having him around. He’s been staying at his brother’s and his brother and his wife came to visit us too. It feels like extended family, my life before and my life now. I was married for 10 years before we split but I only divorced him 11 years ago, 8 years after we split. They seem like big numbers don’t they? I’ve been with Graham, my current partner for 16 years now!

The older kids were excited about their Dad’s visit and have both spend a day with him as well as some fleeting visits he’s made to our home. My little ones have met him before so they are okay with having him around as is Graham. Some find it strange but you can be friends with your ex, honestly.
He’s not coming to our wedding though, that would be a little weird. (maybe I should have asked him to give me away, hahaha)

Another reason for his visit was to see his nephew, Gary, who unfortunately had the dreaded cancer and was losing his battle. Sadly, he did lose it the day my ex arrived in the country, so he never got to see him. Gary was the same age as me, may he rest in peace, free from his pain. I’m thinking of his mum, his wife and their children, such difficult times for them all.

No one is actually dead until they ripples they cause in the world die away – Terry Practhett

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  1. October 7, 2016 / 11:47 am

    It must make things so much easier for all of you that the two of you still get along and so can have family gatherings without any friction. Sorry to hear about your ex's nephew, it's such a cruel disease. Thanks for sharing with #WotW

  2. October 7, 2016 / 12:17 pm

    What a lovely quote at the end. I've not read it before, but how true. I'm sorry to hear about your ex's nephew. Never easy. Makes you appreciate family that little bit more. I do think it's wonderful that you have such a good relationship with your ex. I love your idea of him giving you away. #wotw

  3. Julie Tomkins
    October 7, 2016 / 5:28 pm

    It's far easier to be able to remain friends with an ex. Especially where children are concerned, it's great that the extended family are supportive and get on. My family are all over the place. Wales, Rugby, Stratford and Worcester. I don't get to speak to my kids often enough and weekend working prevents us from carrying out any 'normal social activities' so everything is squeezed into bank holiday afternoons and Christmases. My word of the week is 'worry' when family and loved ones are ill and suffering traumatic times, we feel restricted that we can't just go over and give them a hug. Xxx

  4. October 7, 2016 / 6:38 pm

    It is fantastic that you all get along….It must make things so much easier. I could never imagine being like that with my eldest girls dad who's a bit difficult. lol
    So sorry to hear about your ex's nephew…Cancer is just the worst!

  5. angiemwebster77
    October 7, 2016 / 6:48 pm

    Sorry to hear about your ex-husbands nephew such sad news and a shame he didn't arrive in time to visit him. It's great that you get on with your ex-husband it certainly makes things easier for the children. #WotW

  6. Tracey mummyshire
    October 7, 2016 / 9:48 pm

    I'm so sorry to hear about your loss from Cancer, and such ashame your ex husband didn't quite make it in time to visit.
    I think you can be friends with your ex and you've just proved my point perfectly, although I think I agree with you about mtmmwpggpdinviting him to your wedding!!

  7. oddsocksandlollipops
    October 8, 2016 / 1:53 pm

    It's wonderful that you get along, I think it makes such a difference. My parents, whilst they aren't friends they are civil to each other.
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My auntie has terminal cancer, she has been fighting it for nearly a year now, and it's such a horrible disease

  8. optrixxaris1
    October 8, 2016 / 9:42 pm

    I think it's great that you are all able to get on. Surely the children will be happy as long as everyone else is content. #WotW.

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