We went to speak to the school counsellor about Star and we were asked if she’d had any traumatic experiences…well, you know, just the usual, two lots of major surgery, constant pain, dislocations, broken neck, then there are the family problems including a mum that was paralysed in a day and is now mostly wheelchair bound. And her Grandad passed away suddenly at Christmas. I guess my child has had her fair share of traumatic experiences already.
- Love – has to be unconditional. It’s important for a child to know that no matter what, you will always love them. They should not have their feelings belittled or their distress unheard. They will learn to love others. Love makes them value themselves and capable of valuing and loving others.
- Security – A child needs to feel secure to feel happy. They should always made to feel safe and protected at home.
- Play – It’s not just about the latest toys and gadgets, it’s about imaginative play and having fun with other children. Your child will benefit greatly if you play with them too.
- Boundaries – a child needs boundaries, you may think you are making them happy by letting them do whatever they want but they need to know that sometimes their parent has to get tough.
- Praise – gives them approval and lets them know that they are loved. It’s always a joy to recieve praise from a parent.
- Food and Exercise – a healthy child is a happy child that’s simple.
- Wonder – A sense of adventure and wonderment triggers a lot of happiness. Learning new things can be fun, wanting to learn new things is even better. Fill your child with the love of learning and asking questions.
- Practice Gratitude – Every day ask them what they have to be thankful for. Tell them what you are thankful for. Sometimes the good things pass you by, but not if you talk about them.
- Inclusion – Include them in your life, let them help you cook and do the housework. Let them see where you work. It’s all one big adventure to them.
- Nurture Your Happiness – Be happy yourself and your child will pick it up. No-one can be happy all the time but letting your child seeing your happy side often will make them happy too.
|How much fun is cooking at home with your sister?|
|Happy kids playing in the back garden|
I hope that when my own children grow up they will remember their childhood as being happy. We don’t have huge amounts of money, we don’t go on exciting memorable holidays all around the world, we can’t give them the amazing experiences that we think will make them happy. What we can give them is a rounded, happy upbringing full of love and laughter, wonderment and gratitude, boundaries, praise and security.
What do you think? Is there anything you would add to my list? Was your childhood happy, I’d love to hear your happy memories in the comments.
|simple things like stroking a pet can make a child happy.|