This week we have been out quite lot which is why it’s my word of the week.
I’m a huge fan of dates, they are sticky, sweet and delicious…but that’s not what kind of dates I’m on about this week.
The week started with my other half taking his driving theory test….and passing first time!
So he booked his driving test when he got home. He was a bit worried about this because he doesn’t feel ready yet, but I said to go ahead anyway because there is always a waiting list. I was right, there was nothing available until December. He called his instructor who told him to try another test centre and he managed to book his test for 23rd October which was much better!
So, there is my first date – 23rd October! I know a lot of people don’t pass first time but I’m really hoping that my other half will do well. It’s very exciting.
Then a little later in the day I had a call from the car dealer to say he’d managed to secure my car and it will be in country within 10 days. Then I have to wait for the adaptations to be fitted and the car will be mine..on 1st September! That’s date number two, when I get my new car.
On Tuesday it was the Little Man’s birthday, always a special date.
Finally on Wednesday we took a trip into town to the Registry Office and booked our wedding day. It was a bit touch and go as somehow I’ve managed to lose my decree absolute from my divorce. We turned the house upside down looking for it but with no luck. I can’t remember having to use it before. It’s strange because I have everything else, all my letters from the solicitors and the family courts and my decree nisi. I even have a letter from my solicitor saying that my decree absolute was enclosed…but of course, it wasn’t. We had been told that without it we couldn’t go ahead with our appointment but as I knew this wasn’t law I decided to go anyway. It didn’t matter if they turned us away we’d lose our £70 appointment fee for not turning up too. The lady we saw was really nice and said it was ok for us to go ahead so long as we produced the missing decree absolute 28 days before the wedding, preferably sooner. So, we did it..we booked a date.
We said we were not really fussy about the date but it would be nice to have it in November. She came back with 26th November and we snapped it up…it also happens to be my birthday! So that is my third date, the date of our wedding (and my birthday.)
Oh, and while we were in town I put in my application for a duplicate decree absolute, so that’s sorted too.
Now I’m faced with the realisation that I have a wedding to plan in just over three months!
Just seven weeks ago I picked up my new car. When I say new, it was really new and shiny and the most loveliest car I’ve ever had. I was so excited.
I’d not had a car of my own for more than two years. The last time I had taken out a loan to purchase a second hand car and I’d been totally ripped off. The car was purchased from a private seller and after two month I took it for an MOT test and the car had to be scrapped because it was dangerous. The experience was awful, I was left with no car and no money and the worry that I’d been driving around with my children in a dangerous car for two months. It did put me off.
Then the opportunity arose for me to have a new car and I have to admit it has been really difficult with all the hospital visits and appointments having to rely on public transport, taxis and lifts from friends and family. So a new car was just what we needed.
At first it was great, the car is a dream to drive. I have driven some awful cars in the past so it was so refreshing to have one so nice. We couldn’t wait to go out every day.
I don’t know exactly when things changed but I actually dread going out in the car now. I feel frightened and that makes me nervous and I’m worried that my nerves will lead to me making a dangerous mistake. With a few weeks of having the car I ventured on the motorway and it was fine. I did get a little mixed up on the journey home but managed to rectify it and we arrived home just half hour later than expected. We did see a nasty accident on the motorway, it had happened sometime before and they were clearing up, but it was still disturbing. Maybe that spooked me?
Now I find every time I venture out I see someone do something stupid, particularly at traffic islands. Do people know how to use islands? I think they should spend more time in lessons getting people to drive around islands, maybe even include it in the test, it’s more important than doing a three point turn. I see so many near misses, witness so many people in a hurry that they pay no regards to anyone else on the road, see stupidity everywhere. Is it me? Have I lost my nerve being on the road?
I’ve been a driver for more than fifteen years and in that time I’ve had one minor accident and a couple of bumps while parking…(stupid concrete posts in car parks!) Nothing serious and no-one has ever been hurt.
I do consider myself a safe driver, although I still have a little trouble parking.
My partner has suddenly become the worst passenger ever. He was fine when I was driving him around before, but since then he’s had a few driving lessons himself. Now he thinks he’s a better driver than me and I’m dangerous. He says it’s because he was involved in an accident before, but not while I was driving. He makes me feel even more nervous and nerves are not good while driving. I find myself concentrating really hard every second I’m in the car. I’ve stopped listening to the radio and ignore the kids. The road is all I think about. And driving has stopped being fun.
I’m determined not to let this beat me though. In the last week or two I’ve been tempted to give the car back, really, it’s been that bad. However, I know we need it, and the kids would be devestated. Will get my confidence back?
So, am I a total nutcase? Have you ever felt like this? How can I help myself feel better? Do offer any advice you can, I think I need it.
|The day I got my car|