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August Chronic Illness Writing Prompts

August 1, 2020 by Anne Sweet 14 Comments

Each month I link up with Sheryl over at A Chronic Voice and these are the chronic illness writing prompts she has set for August.

Unlocking
Limiting
Studying
Watching
Healing

These are my Chronic Illness Writing Prompts August

Unlocking

First we were in lock down because of the pandemic. Then slowly we have come out of lock down. Then suddenly, it was like lock down never existed for so many people. Back to work, back to life, back to friends and the pub. Things had changed with masks and social distancing, but basically life was back to normal. (And masks and social distancing was ignored a lot.)

When you have a chronic illness, the last thing you want is a virus that could cause so many more implications. I worry about the neurological symptoms that have been reported. I have enough of them already, thank you.

So for us we are very much staying in lock down. I had a letter from my consultant last week that states

“given the significant disability and chronic neurological illness, it is best that strict social distancing and if practically possible, shielding is followed as best as possible – to avoid any complications.”

Saying that, we did unlock the door for the first time and had a socially distanced day out.

Limiting

I guess this follows on from Unlocking. Even though we are being careful, by limiting our contact with others we are striving to keep safe. My eldest daughter returns to work next week but to limit her contact with others, my husband is taking her to work and picking her up. She normally takes the bus as she doesn’t drive herself. She really does need to learn to drive though. As soon as it’s safe to do so.

We are also limiting ourselves to some time away from home. We had two holidays planned this year, and in fact we should be away right now. But instead I’ve postponed them until next year. Instead we have some other things planned that are safer than crowded beaches and long travelling times.

My husband is the only person who leaves the house regularly. He’s the one who pops to the shops. He’s visited his Mum and his friend. Like a lot of others he hasn’t been careful and has stopped his limitations. When we were in lock down he would go out only once a day and then only if it was necessary. But now, he doesn’t seem to care anymore. He even forgot his mask yesterday and the woman in the shop still served him but asked him to remember it next time.

Studying

School is out for summer and the kids were so happy to drop their home education. I actually enjoyed spending an hour or so teaching my youngest. And although he was a pain to get started, I think he enjoyed a lot too. And we both learned so much.

All the kids struggled with learning out of school though, and they are really looking forward to going back in September. I am putting my faith in the school that they are doing all they can to ensure the virus does not end spreading around the schools.

My studies have not been going so well. I was trying to learn British Sign Language. But it’s hard to fit it in. Each day seems so busy and there is never enough time to fit everything in. I need my relaxation time in the afternoon when I read and crochet, or I can’t cope with making dinner in the evening. Then after dinner I am too tired to do anything.

Watching

I have been watching the James Bond movies again. Some I’ve not watched for years, I have been a little shocked at the cultural references from some of the earlier movies. They wouldn’t get away with a lot of that these days.

I also watched The Titanic with the Little Man. It’s really not one of my favourite films, the last hour is the most interesting. But The Little Man wasn’t feeling too good and we were flicking through the tv while he was next to me on the settee and the movie was on, it had already started so we missed an hour of it (yay) but watched the rest. He loved it.

Another day when the Little Man was bored I asked him if he wanted to watch a movie and he picked ‘Detective Pikachu.’ That’s the third time I’ve watched it now, but it still doesn’t beat the girls favourites when they were younger…I’ve seen High School Musical (1, 2 and 3), Frozen, and Monsters Inc. at least six times each.

Healing

Again, I’ve turned to healing from the inside. Everytime I try I get sidetracked with cake or chocolate. I tend to go by a little of what you fancy does you good. I have found some new ingredients I love, like baobab and moringa, which are so healthy for you and can be added to home made smoothies, treats and breakfasts. I’ve been drinking more water and herbal teas rather than regular tea and coffee.

I’ve been making meals from Mindful Chef, a food box delivery, every fortnight. They are healthier meals and have helped to introduce us to some ingredients and flavours. I love it when I can eat a meal that makes me feel full but not bloated. And especially when it doesn’t keep me awake all night with gastric problems. (Like the time I decided to make chocolate brownies at 10 pm and each one warm.)

I’ve also sought out my crystals again. I used to find them so healing many years ago. I remember going to an old warehouse which had been turned into a market and one stall was just full of crystals. I’d never seen so many beautiful stones, but what really got me was that I ‘felt’ them. They instantly had an effect on my emotions. So I bought some and started a collection. I learnt a lot about crystals and the powers of each of one. But then I put them away and forgot about them.

Recently I bought some crystal bracelets on Etsy. They are lovely and I instantly feel something when I wear them. One of them helps me to ward of negativity, the other helps with pain. So, then I found out some of my other crystals and bought a gorgeous flat bowl, also from Etsy, to display them in.

a white bowl with flowers and filled with crystals. August chronic illness writing prompts.

But, I’ve not talked much about my health. In my last post I talked about not tolerating my pain and that I had an upcoming telephone consultation.I talked to my neuro consultant and he has decided that my best option is to go back onto the IVIG. It was obviously helping to keep me stable, even though it wasn’t offering a cure (I remember when I first had it I was hoping it would be my miracle cure.) Sometimes you have to accept that management is the best you can expect. That will be arranged soon. Five days treatment every 3 months.

I am also going for another brain scan to check on Walter, my haemotoma. Fingers crossed he’s been behaving himself.

Thanks for reading, if you want to see what others make of these prompts please check out Sheryl’s link up.

These are my Chronic illness writing prompts August, to see other months you can click here.

Monthly Chronic Illness Writing Prompts. Why I stay!

March 3, 2020 by Anne Sweet 11 Comments

Each month I like to join in with Sheryl’s writing prompts. She gives the prompts and then I have to write about each of them and how they apply to my life. This month I’m really thinking about why I stay.

The prompts this month are

STAYING
DOING
BEING
TARGETING
WEIGHING

Staying – Why I Stay

So much of the time, especially in the recent months, I’m thinking why I stay. Yes, I mean why I stay alive, why I stay here on this planet, why I stay here in this house, this home. A lot of the time I don’t want to stay, I want to be anywhere but here.

My family drive me nuts, my illness drives me nuts, my daily routine drives me nuts. My work, my words, my life, waking up in the morning, going to bed at night, it all drives me insane. I so often don’t want to do it anymore.

But then I think again. We only have one shot at this life and so far I’ve been through a lot. But that’s my life and that’s the one I was given. Yes, I could have been given a life of luxury with a nice house, plenty of money and lots of holidays. I could have been given a life in war torn Syria. But I wasn’t, I was given this rather ordinary life in England. Which got messed up along the way, but it’s still my life.

And I still have things I can be proud of. Especially my children. And that’s why I stay.

Doing

What will I be doing this month? Well, we are currently in the process of having our family bathroom turned into a wet room. That means an accessible shower for me. So, although I won’t be doing the work myself, I’m coping with the workmen every day disrupting my daytime routine. (You know, the one I’m sick of!)

Then I’ll be helping my husband re-arrange our bedroom in preparation for my lift. He’ll be doing all the hard work, but I really need a huge purge, so I’ll be telling him what has to go. (including two bookshelves full of books.)

Being

I guess I’m being me. My usual moany but unable to ask for help self me. My hope is that I can be different. I feel as though I have learned so much recently. I have done a lot of studying and reading and learning, but the last couple of years I’ve become so much more aware of people. I’m not so sure I like people very much which is strange seeing as I have a degree in psychology. You would think I understood how people behaved, but trust me, it’s takes more than a psychology degree to understand people. So, I’ve decided that I have to start really being who I am and forgetting about what other people think of me. So watch out for me being different. Although, I may just appear to be the same. Some things I refuse to change.

Targeting

What am I targeting this month? Well, I guess it has to be my health. I’ve been reading through my consultant’s letters and something clicked in how my health has changed over the past few years.

There are two things I need to target. My mental health, which I’m already working on with a counsellor, but I also need to work on more pain management. I thought I was pretty good at mindfulness and mind over matter, but it turns out that, yet again, I have much to learn. I will be focusing on this a lot over the next month (And forever.)

The other thing is my weight, or more specifically, my diet. I have learnt that specific things trigger me, too much, or too little sugar can have an adverse affect on my health. Also, my stomach suffers after eating certain foods so I really need to avoid or find alternatives for bread, milk, some fruits and coffee. There are probably a few more things I need to add to list, but it’s not so simple as following a specific diet, this has to be ‘my’ diet. I do need to lose weight too. Before I got sick I used to fret about being 7 lb overweight, now I’m more like 28 lb overweight and it’s hard to shift being so immobile. I barely eat anything as it is so it’s going to be hard to shift, but I’m sure it will make me feel better.

Most of the weight I put on after having high doses of steroids. Not everyone is the same, but after the first dose of IV steroids I put on a few extra pounds. Then a year later I was given a second dose of IV steroids followed by six months worth of them titering them down each week so I didn’t stop suddenly. This dose caused me to put on most of my weight and also destroyed three of my teeth. (My dentist said that steroids do not affect teeth, but after talking to others I found out its quite common.)

Weighing

I’ve just confessed about my weight gain and how I need to change it, so now I’ll talk about something else.

I’ve been weighing up my life in general and working out the things that have the biggest effect on my health. As I’ve already stated I’ve identified these as mental, food and weight.

Overall, my current quality of life isn’t good but after weighing everything up I am coming up with plans for improvement. My home will be improved to help my ability to cope, my mental health is having a real good spring clean, and my physical health will hopefully improve too.

For four years I’ve been looking for a cure, and came to the conclusion that there wasn’t one. But after weighing it all up, maybe I was wrong. Maybe I can get better, or at least improve a little.

I started this post by talking about how I have been so close to ending it all, but as you can, my positivity has won over and I am already working on how to make life better. I lost faith in myself and in humanity, but my cup never fully emptied and I know I can fill it up again.

Thanks for reading and if you’d like to see how other’s have interpreted these writing prompts then please click the image below.

My Writing Prompts for February

Chronic Illness – Welcome to 2020

January 6, 2020 by Anne Sweet 7 Comments

Welcome to 2020

This is my monthly link up post where I join in with the lovely sheryl from A Chronic voice and give my ideas on her writing prompts.

The prompts this month are Purging, Seizing, Opening, Revamping and Envisioning. Welcome to 2020!

Purging

Getting rid of stuff, hey I really need to do that. I need to keep my house clearer to assist my mobility. At Christmas time when the kids had their toys all over the floor, it made me very unstable and I even had a fall landing on my daughter. (I didn’t hurt her.)

The Christmas toys and decorations have gone now but it’s made me think of how I can get rid of more things to make more space. In particular my bedroom. I’m slowly getting there in getting it all sorted out, but there is so much more I need to purge. I will be needing a lot more space in there later this year.

I have also purged my kitchen cupboards of tins and jars that we will never use. I’ve asked my husband to take them to the local foodbank. Hopefully they will be more useful to others in need and it’s a great way of making more space while helping someone else. Of course, all the outgrown clothing goes in the charity bags too.

Seizing

I wasn’t sure what to write here but at times I really feel like giving up altogether, so I guess those are the moments when I seize every day. It can be hard living each day in pain and not being able to do things you used to do, but sometimes you have to seize the moments you can and make the best of them.

These days those, most of the seizures happen within my own body, but I will keep fighting and find a way of getting rid of them.

Opening

I’ve had my eyes opened a lot over the past four years. A lot of my previous thoughts and beliefs have been turned upside down. It’s not a bad thing although it hurts at times. Especially when you find that trust isn’t kept and ideals not shared.

I have always believed myself to have an open mind but in fact it’s been very closed. This year I will open my eyes even more and instead being shocked and dismayed I will do it with understanding. Everyone is different after all.

I’m also going to open my mind to other kinds of therapy. As the song goes ‘The Drugs Don’t Work’ they may help a little but I want more. I used to have so many things I believed in, I thought the mind could heal anything. So maybe it’s time to start thinking outside the box, or even the consultants office.

Revamping

I need a lot of revamping in my life. I am going to change my daily routines and give my soul a revamp. I think this will call for a lot more organization and work, but that’s maybe what I need. I have too many things going on, I always do, but if I can organize them I can give them the attention they need. First of all I need to decide what I can and can’t do and to focus!

Also, there will some revamping of my home, if you can call it that. This year I’ll be having a new wet room installed so I won’t be risking my life everytime I take a shower. I will also be having a lift put in so no more stairs for me. Some days going up and down the stairs is my worst nightmare.

Envisioning – Welcome to 2020

Each year I make sure I have a lot of things to look forward to, whether it’s a holiday, a trip to the theatre or a new project. There always has to be something to keep me going.

This year I think it’s time to think bigger and better and do those things I’ve always wanted to do but never managed. If I can envision it, I can do it, right? Watch this space!

December link up Post

December – Life with a Chronic Illness

December 2, 2019 by Anne Sweet 9 Comments

Each month I join up with Sheryl from A Chronic Voice for some writing prompts aimed at living life with a chronic illness. This months writing prompts are Travelling, Bonding, Warming, Coping, Ending.

Travelling

I don’t do much travelling around this time of year. My family are all close by, and the only ones who are not come to visit us. This will be on December 14th.

In November, I only left the house three times, and one of those outings was an hospital appointment! The other I was only out for an hour, and the final outing was on the very last day when we went to the local Christmas Tree lights festival. (Anyone who follows me on Social Media will have seen me saying that I’ve only been out twice in November, but that’s brain fog for you, I completely forgot about the other time.)

I will be going out more this month (Fingers crossed) but not really travelling much. I have booked our holiday for next year though. It’s still in the UK but I love a seaside holiday. I have also realised that as my kids get older these families will become a thing of the past. I still remember when my eldest kids became to old to come on holiday with us. I even remember when I got too old to go on holiday with my Mum. I feel sad, but maybe it will give me an opportunity for more travel seeing as it will cost less paying for so many children. Let’s just hope I stay healthy enough.

Bonding

We have had a week of a sickness bug running it’s way through the family and suddenly I have had children again and plenty of bonding. In particular, my Little Man. Instead of wanting to be glued to a laptop or phone or other device, with his headphones on and seemingly in another world, he has spent time talking to me and we even cuddled up together on the settee one day and watched a movie together. I think we all need this special time, either as a family or just two of us. I also got to watch a movie with my husband which rarely happens. He’s generally more interested in watching the sports channel upstairs, sometimes life is too hectic for this kind of bonding.

In past years Christmas was always a time of bonding as my Nan, who was the glue of our family, would bring us all together for the holiday. She left us many years ago now and the family drifted further and further apart. In fact I barely see any of my cousins, aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews and so on. I don’t even see one of my brother’s. So it’s just Graham’s Mum and brothers and my eldest brother and his wife. It seems so distant, those days of a house full of relatives, when the furniture would be moved around to fit them in and the chairs from the kitchen dotted around the living room.

These days the only bonding I get with my extended family is through sending Christmas cards. And sometimes I don’t even manage this.

Warming

I suffer so much from cold weather, even at home I find myself covered in blankets and layers of clothes just trying to keep warm and the pain at bay. Sometimes, you just have venture out though and that’s when the warmer clothes come in handy.

In no particular order, the things that make me feel warm in December are;

Hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows (And maybe a tot of Baileys)
Christmas Carols, I love them and know all the words
Believing in Father Christmas, the kids might be getting older but I will always believe in him as it gives me a warm fuzzy feeling.
Christmas bells, we are lucky to live near a carrillion which plays the most wonderful Christmas music on a Saturday afternoon.
Christmas feel good movies. I can watch them all, no matter how corny.
Christmas decorations, trees and lights. I get a warm fuzzy feeling just looking at them.
A lovely real fire. We don’t have one, we don’t even have a chimney (But it’s okay, Father Christmas has a magic key) but I can put the You Tube video of a real fire on my TV and put my feet up in front of it. There is no heat but it still makes me feel warm.
Christmas food..yummy, everything from chocolate to brussell sprouts. I love Christmas dinner with all the trimmings, and all the treats and deserts that are okay to indulge in over Christmas.

And there is nothing nicer than coming home after a cold outing to a lovely warm house, or cuddling up on the sofa with a blanket, or getting into a lovely warm bed. There are so many ways to feel warm.

Coping

This is a big one for me this month. I stopped my treatment, on advice from my consultant, nearly three months ago. So it’s probably completely out of my system now. It’s been hard and I’ve almost phoned the hospital on many occasions to ask them to give me my treatment (my consultant said I could do this any time.) But, on the other hand, I’ve coped better than I thought I would, and although I’ve gone backwards on many things, I’ve also noticed that some of the side effects are starting to disappear.

That’s one of the problems with a rare chronic illness like Stiff Person Syndrome, no-one really knows what will make it better, and everyone who has it reacts differently to treatments. So coping is the best I can do.

As for the season’s festivities, I cope with them by taking everything slowly. There was a time where I’d be in a tiz if my decorations were not put up on December 1st, but we have a lot on in the following week so I doubt my husband will be able to get the decorations out for me any time soon. We will also have to move furniture, something I can’t do. The Christmas shopping is mostly done online, so that’s how I cope with that. Along with very careful planning.

Ending

The end of the year, such a bittersweet time, especially as you get older. I often wonder if this will be my last year on this earth, will I even make it through another year. I often wonder how I will make through a night so this is not an isolated feeling. Some people say they are glad to see the back of the year, especially when things have not been so good. But I always look back and think of all the positive acheivements I’ve made. The bad times don’t just disappear, but it’s much nicer thinking about the good times, and there is always more than you think.

In past times the period between Christmas Day and the New Year has brought much sadness, grief and pain. It’s a difficult time for us as a family and we realise that all we have is each other, so we try to spend the time quietly, bonding with each other and coping in our own way.

I was admitted to hospital on New Years Day 2016 which is when my chronic illness journey began. So this year it will be four years sick.

Thanks for reading. I’m linking up with Sheryl here and you can click through to see other bloggers interperete the same prompts.

The Meaning of Life, the Universe and Chronic Illness

September 2, 2019 by Anne Sweet 16 Comments

It’s time for my monthly writing prompts from the lovely Sheryl at A Chronic Voice. This week I’m looking at the meaning of life.

Finding

I laughed when reading this prompt. It seems like I’m forever searching for stuff lately. I can’t remember where I’ve put anything and it drives me and my family nuts. I’m not the only one though, the rest of my family are just as useless at finding things so I don’t think this is down to my illness but probably an inherited trait.

But on a deeper level I’ve been looking for the meaning of life and wondering why some people have it so much more difficult than others. Is it true that there is a form of re-incarnation, where karma plays a part? If that’s the case then I must have been something real evil in a previous life and now I have to pay for it. The more I look into my life as a whole the more I find that things have been pretty crap since I was a very young child. Not just health wise.

However, I do appreciate every day the good things that have happened in my life, even if they went from good to bad, at least they were good for a while and that’s what I have to focus on.

It’s not Just Me!

Then I hear of other’s stories and realise that so many people have such crap lives and it is actually a very few that have blessed time while here on earth. (And even those I know who outwardly seem to have blessed lives are still hiding some dark times.)

So in conclusion, I’ve found that life is pretty crap!
But, we are only here for a short time, and for some, it’s far too short. So, as a positive minded person, I have to make the most of the time that I’m here and try and make it better for those around me too. At least then I will feel that life really does have some meaning.

Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer.

Researching

I’m constantly researching the effects of my illness, I think it’s one of the natural things you do when you have a chronic condition. I am keeping a log of things and have some ideas for my consultant next time we meet. I don’t think my current treatment is working so well, and I’ve always asked for more. Well, this month I went to my GP and asked for less! Yes, I requested a reduction in my medication. Sometimes the side effects are worse than the benefits and it’s so difficult to work out.

Earlier this year I was having heart problems, I had severe palpitations which at times made me think like I was dying. But it turns out that a change in my medication was all that it took to lessen them. I’m not completely cured but it’s gone from happening almost every day to once or twice a month. It was only through researching my medication that I worked this out. The Doctors were too busy looking for reasons within my body for these symptoms, attaching me to machines and recording my heart patterns. I researched the reactions of my medication and which worked best for me.

We humans are amazing creatures, every one of us is so different in body and mind. Sometimes Doctors, even though they are brilliant, work too methodically to realise this and often miss the real meaning behind what’s happening

Dating

I wasn’t going to answer this as I’m a married women. Dating is not something I do. I don’t even have ‘date nights’ with my husband. But, if I’m honest, dating is not something I’ve done much of all my life.
I met my previous husband at the age of 16 and he was my first serious boyfriend. When we split up, I dated a total of two guys before meeting my current husband. I’m no expert on dating.

But, when I did meet my current husband I decided that I was never going to get married again. He was never happy about that but we spent many years together. Then when I got sick (my illness happened quite suddenly) he stuck by me and wanted to do all he could to help me. I hear so often in the chronic illness society about relationships just not lasting because the partner couldn’t manage with their loved one’s illnesses. But Graham was prepared to stick around no matter what. So I married him and we are just coming up to our third anniversary, despite being together for eighteen years.

If he did leave me, then I don’t think I’d even bother trying to date again. I know it’s never the end of the line and that there are plenty of older guys out there that would probably make suitable partners. But honestly, sometimes looking after yourself makes it way too difficult to factor someone else in, so I’d probably just stay alone.

Reusing

I’m taking this as a prompt to write about recycling or changing from throw away products to protect our earth. I hate it when people who are trying to be more ‘green’ get labelled as ‘snowflakes.’ Our planet is our most precious resource, of course we need to protect it.

Sidenote: I hate the term ‘snowflake’ as being used as a derogatory word anyway. One of the most beautiful things in life are snowflakes and each one is individual, just like us humans. So, in fact, every one of us is a snowflake anyway. And trust me, any one of us can melt away in an instant too.

I have recycled for many years but I’ve stepped up the mark lately by cutting down hugely on resuable plastics. We’ve gone back to using bars of soap instead of plastic bottles and flannels and cloths rather than throw away wipes. I went one step further this week when my son complained that his duvet was not keeping him warm. Instead of throwing it out and buying another. I found an older duvet and put both inside his cover, all it needed was a quick wash and freshen up and now he has a big thick duvet ready for the colder months.

I could go on and on about reusing and saving our planet. But that would be a whole blog post on it’s own.

Recounting

I’ve already touched on recounting the good memories and weighing them up. I may have had a lot of bad things in my life, but there have been good times to remember. I had a lot of memories come up recently while clearing out my old wardrobe and going through old photographs and memory boxes I’d created.

One thing I was thinking about recently was how quickly things change. I remembered all the times when we were going through difficult times and now they are just distant memories. Recounting past experiences can be therapeutic.

I remember when my daughter was young and I knew I had diary that I’d written while my eldest daughter was the same age. I decided to read through it and suddenly realised that it had been one of the worst years that I’d ever experienced (up until that point anyway!) But, I’d gone there because I’d wanted to recount the good things about my baby girl and it saddened me that these good times had been overshadowed by the bad…but only in my writing..in my head it was still good. The brain is an amazing tool.

Finding Meaning.

So, in life, no matter how awful, we have to focus on the good. One good day a month maybe the only thing I can acheive these days, but it doesn’t matter. Even on the worst days I can do something worthwhile. I love creating things and I’ve found crochet extremely therapeutic. I love reading and absorbing stories, I get excited and engrossed, and even though it’s not my life, it’s something I can ‘live’ even for a little while.

I’ve also discovered the power of Netflix. I haven’t been such a television addict for many years. But now there is nothing I like more than waiting for the kids to go to sleep and then switching on a program or series that I can truly lose myself in. It’s not wasting your life, it’s enhancing it. Giving you those little thrills, whether it’s enjoying something else’s romantic encounters, being on the edge of your seat with the thrills, or even feeling scared. When you can’t get out there yourself and experience these emotions it’s good to find them in other ways.

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